And How Are You?
“How are
you today?”
We hear
that question often, and usually our response is automatic: “I’m fine. How are
you?” A simple and courteous exchange of pleasantries that is forgotten almost
as quickly as it began. Rarely do we really care how the other person is, and
vice-versa. Even if we are truly not “fine” we shy away from voicing it. We
don’t want to bother anyone with our problems. Of course, there are some who
have no qualms about laying out their issues in graphic detail, but most of us
just respond, smile, and move on.
But is
this a good thing? Maybe not. Maybe we should stop and run an inventory of
ourselves. Maybe we should take time to ensure that we are actually fine and be
thankful that we are. We’re all so eager to complain about our aches and pains
and how bad our day is going, but do we ever stop and realize that we are truly
doing well?
Think
back to the last problem you had with your body. Toothache? Sore joint? Cold
sore? Constipation? Now, think about how you felt during that time. How many
times did you wish the problem was gone? How many times did you promise
yourself that, once the problem left, you’d be grateful that it was over?
We tend
to forget things like that when we’re better. We got rid of the problem, that’s
all we care about. What a shame. Why can’t we use those memories to make our
lives better right now? Why is it so bad to be happy in our fineness? How
strange would it be to look in the mirror, smile at yourself, and say, “Wow, no
backache this morning!”? Or, “The old feet are feeling pumped and ready to go!”
Or, “Wow, what a nice smile, no cold sores on these lips!” Or, how about, “I’m
feeling fantastic! No sign of diarrhea, or constipation, or bladder issues.
Everything is flowing along great.”
Try it.
It may not be so strange after all.
The next
time someone asks how you are doing, smile, say you’re fine, and move on. But
as you walk away, run through the list of problems you COULD be having, and be
truly grateful that you are NOT having them at the moment. It will bring a
smile to your lips. And we can all use more smiles, can’t we?
Writing
tip: When confronted with the dreaded Writer’s Block, don’t dwell on the fact.
The more you think about your Writer’s Block, the easier it is to find excuses
to not fight it. The best cure I have found is to talk to a fellow writer about
the affliction. A writer who will challenge me to power on through the block,
and check on me frequently to make sure I’m still avoiding it. Inspiration is
the key.
Remember
back to a time when you were pounding the keyboard, turning out hundreds of
glorious words a minute, the stories and characters building themselves in a
frenzy of creativity; and do the same thing now. Begin typing the old standby
beginning: “It was a dark and stormy night…” and then start flinging words on
the screen as fast as you can. Don’t worry about grammar or syntax, just type. The
Backspace button is a no-no at this time. Even if you’re turning out incoherent
drivel, at least you’re turning out something!
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